Goals: The One Thing You Must Do to Accomplish Them

goals: the one thing you must do to accomplish your goals this year

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January is the month that everyone is setting goals and making resolutions.   But excuse me.  I did not say, “Happy New Year!”  By now, I think everyone has gotten back to their normal routine.  Hopefully, you had a wonderful holiday season.  I did.  I have taken down all the Christmas decorations, my girls are back to school and I’m prepping for my Spring courses (I’m a professor, remember?)

I’m writing this because I, like you and so many others am looking at myself and figuring out what I want to do and be this year.  The New Year just naturally causes people to look back at the previous year and look ahead and plan for the new year.  Lots of people make resolutions to lose weight, start a business, quit smoking and all sorts of stuff.  Personally, I don’t make resolutions anymore because by January 17th – and most of the time, even sooner than that – I have given up and am back to eating ice cream daily and just resolve to accept the size of my thighs.  But this got me to thinking…  Why do I and so many others fail to accomplish their resolutions?  Why are goals so hard to achieve?

People come to me all the time wanting to me to help them achieve their dream of starting a blog for their business or grow their social media following.  They are so excited, serious and motivated when we first meet up.  But some people fall by the wayside, even before we get started or just when things are starting to take off.  Why is that?  Why are we like that?

The Reason We Fail to Reach Our Goals

I believe it is because we do not take action.  And if we do take action, we stop and do not repeat those actions that lead to progress over and over again until we reach our goal.  After all, it is so easy and comfortable to just keep doing what we are already going.  To get 100,000 or more Instagram followers and be considered a major influence, just doesn’t happen.  To get to the point where brands are paying you big bucks to post a picture of their product on your Instagram feed takes work.  A lot of work.  That just doesn’t happen overnight.  Even to get 1,000 like on your Facebook page takes determination, consistency and hard work.


The #1 Thing You Need to Do to Achieve Your Goals

To reach those dreams and goals that God has planted in us takes time, work and action.  Specific actions on a daily basis that we do over and over again until we reach that goal.  And we can’t let “obstacles” stop us.  Like P. Diddy, Puff Daddy, Sean Combs (or whatever he is calling himself now) says in a lot of his songs, “Can’t stop, won’t stop”.  We must have that attitude in order to succeed.

Expect Difficulties

Actually, we shouldn’t be surprised when we hit roadblocks. We should expect them but not let them deter us from our path.  We should have the mindset that we are going to go around, though, over or under that obstacle to overcome it.  The key is to not to quit or let that obstacle stop you from achieving your goal.  This year, we got this.  Let’s do this!  #achieveyourdreamsin2017

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2 Reasons Why Employers Want Your Facebook Password


Recently, there have been several articles in the press about jobs seekers getting asked to give their Facebook login and passwords for interviews.  We knew that employers were looking at potential employee’s social media accounts before they hired them, but the out-and-out asking for login information is a new trend.

I believe, it’s happening for many reasons, but here are the main two:

  1. The job market is becoming more competitive and less and less jobs are now available.  As a result, employers are using more non-traditional methods to screen potential employees.
  2. A new trend is on the rise, people using social media to rant or vent about their workplace.   Businesses and companies don’t want their employers leaking valueable information online or ranting about their workplace practices.  So, they are taking extra measures upfront to make sure they hire people who they suspect won’t “go off” about them online.

What should you say or do if you get asked for your Facebook login information.  Well, that depends on if you agree with this practice or not and how bad you need a job.  Personally, I don’t agree with this practice and I think it is crossing the line.  I don’t even know if this practice is legal but here are some tips to help you come to the interview prepared.

Ask for the company’s social media policy.  Turn the tables back on them.  If the company has one, ask to see where that policy is stated.  When you go on a job interview, they give you benefit, leave and insurance information upfront.  Why not give the social media policy information as well?  If the company doesn’t have a social media policy, or this practice isn’t listed in the policy, you can refuse to give your login information.

Counter them.  Ask your potential employer their reasoning behind this practice.  Most will say that they use it as a way to judge a potential employee’s character.  It’s a way to find out what kind of person you really are.  That’s a valid reason but give them other options to learn about your character.  Have a list of volunteer activities, recommendations, honors and awards that you have received handy.

Before your interview, email the contact person about all the information that is needed and expected during the interview.   They are usually more than happy to tell you bring your resume, id cards and the like.  If they inform you that your Facebook logins are needed, you can ask questions why (see above).  They may drop it or tell you not to worry about it.  But if they stand firm, don’t go to the interview unless you’re willing to give your login.  If they don’t tell you to bring your login information and they ask for it during the interveiw, you can always say that you weren’t told that information was required for the interview.

Stand your ground.  Understand that if you refuse to give your login information, you may not get that job.  If you are okay with that, then stand your ground.  If not, then get everything controversial off your Facebook page before you go into that interview.  You should do this anyway because just like employers are checking credit reports of potential employees they screen your social media accounts without your knowledge.  So, if you on the hunt for a new job, it’s a good idea to sanitize it.

Would you give your Facebook login and password at a job interview?  Do you think this practice is valid?  Write a comment and let me know what you think.  Also, if you like this post or found some value in it, please like this page and share it with your friends.

3 Ways to Get into Trouble on Twitter and Facebook

[Yesterday, I told you about a Sunday School lesson I did at a church. One of the topics, I talked about sexting and its dangers. Today, I’m going to cover a little more of what I discussed in that Sunday School lesson. More specificially, I’m gonna talk about online social networks. I’ve been quoted in Fox News, MSNBC News and appeared on television and radio talking about this topic. So, I have a few things I want to share with you.

A lot of the parents in attendance were curious about online social networks and how their kids can stay safe using them. Everyone has heard of Facebook, MySpace and Twitter but most parents didn’t know enough about them to protect their kids. So, a basic definition of an online social network is an online location where a user can create a profile and build a person network that connects him or her to other users. Online social networks are wonderful and have revolutionized the way the world uses the internet and communicates. But with the good also comes some bad. There are lots of way kids (and adults!) can get into trouble on online social networks. Here are three big problems I advised parents to be aware of.

1. Cyber-Bullying
This is a huge, hot-button topic today. Social media like Facebook and Twitter have brought about the rise of young people taunting, threatening, and bullying their peers online. A lot of this is done without parents or school officials ever knowing about it. We have all heard the news stories of young people taking their lives or being attacked because what was said online. This has got to stop. A lot of schools, school districts and states are taking a zero-tolerance policy against cyber-bullying and putting laws into place for punishment. This is a serious issue. So, please kids, just don’t do it.

2. Online Ranting
Online ranting is different than cyber-bullying. Cyber-bullying is threatening another person but online ranting is more like “hating” on someone. So instead of a kid saying they want to beat up someone online (which is cyber-bullying), online ranting is a student posting online that they hate their chemistry teacher and thinks their test was graded unfairly. Ranting doesn’t involve threats of violence or anything like that. But it does ususally involve venting feelings of anger or dissatisfaction about a person. While some may think this is not as bad as cyber-bullying, I urge you to think again. Professional athletes has lost contracts, employees have gotten fired, job applicants were never even hired, and students have lost scholarships to universities and had their admission revoked all because of online ranting. So, if you feel mad about something or someone, posting it online is not the way to work out your feelings.

3. Posting Inappropiate Pictures of Yourself
With the popularity of online social networks, also comes the rise of inappropiate material. A lot of it being inappropiate pictures posted online. Kids today are so jaded because every other day, some celebrity is releasing a sex tape or has nude photos “leaked” online. It seems like it’s no big deal to take pictures in like manner and post online. But, doing this can be very detrimental to the child, their school career and future employment opportunities. Many schools are disciplining students for inappropiate online behavior and most colleges, universities and employers check the online behaviour of potential applicants. Posting lewd pictures of yourself and others may seem funny at first, but not so much when you can’t get into the college of your choice or land the job you want. So, parents have to be diligent about monitoring their kids to make sure their kids (and their friends) have not posted inappropiate videos, photos, etc. of themselves online.

It’s not easy being a parent in this fast-paced, high-tech world. There’s a lot out there that you have to protect your kids from. But just the fact that you’re reading this post shows that you’re on the right track.

Dr. Marcella Wilson interviewed by Detroit News about Keeping Kids Safe Online

Detroit News, The (MI) 

Detroit News, The (MI)May 24, 2011

Facebook is no friend to children under 13

Author: Laura Berman The Detroit News

Edition: 1-dot
Section: Metro
Page: A3
 Article Text:

Newly emerging dilemma in the realm of social netiquette: How do you respond to a 10-year-old when she asks to be your Facebook friend? It happened to me the other day, when a sweet, familiar face popped up on my Facebook page.

As a 10-year-old, my prospective Facebook friend is on the cusp of a trend — one of 5 million kids her age and under who have joined the Facebook user army.

Or as my daughter explained: “AOL is for babies. All of my friends are on Facebook. Mom, can I be on Facebook?”

As dilemmas go, this one proved short-lived. I opted to keep my Facebook corner for adults only — and based on what I’ve learned, you might want to do the same.

For years, the standard advice about kids online has been to supervise. But new studies suggest the spectacular growth of Facebook and other social media have outstripped the ability of people — not just kids — to manage what happens to their own information on line.  

Consumer Reports last week released a survey revealing 7.5 million children younger than 13 are using Facebook! . Many of them probably have parental approval, even though kids are required to be 13.

“Sometimes even the 11-year-olds have figured out how to open their own account,” says Marcella Wilson, a Baltimore, Md., technology expert. She’s among those who suggest technology is “amazing” and that kids should be encouraged to explore, with parental supervision.  

But we’re moving into an era when parental supervision is easier to advise than to do. Kids now have access to computers at school, in libraries, on cellphones, iPads and other devices. They’re the digital natives, asserting their territorial rights to parents who can’t find the camera on a phone, let alone match their kids’ dizzying techie skills.

Most of the kids measured by Facebook likely joined with the help of their parents, because the survey was completed by adults, not children.

In most of these cases, parents likely help kids lie about their age to get on email and social media programs, mo! st of which have an age 13 requirement — largely ! a functi on of a federal law governing online privacy for children. That’s true for Facebook, Gmail, Yahoo and Hotmail, among others.  

Every viral, phishing and chainmail scam that baffles adults is likely to be even more challenging to children. And kids can’t easily distinguish online between friendly adults and friendly predators.

Jeff Fox, the Consumer Reports technology editor, argues that Facebook’s privacy controls are confusing even to adults, and that social media firms need to assume more responsibility for enforcing their own rules.

Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook’s CEO, says he’d like to eliminate the 13-year-old age requirement. But Fox points out that Facebook isn’t enforcing its age rules now: Shouldn’t the company demonstrate its ability to control privacy and age requirements first?Kids talk freely about their lives, online or off. They push buttons with abandon.

“Right now, Facebook isn’t fit for kids,” Fox says flatly.  

Laura Berman’s c! olumn appears Tuesdays and Thursdays. Reach her at (313) 222-2032 or lberman@detnews.com

(c) 2011, The Detroit News. All rights reserved.
Record Number: det-108526538


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